Taiwanese actor Toby Lee, who starred within the Netflix collection Shards Of Her – which tells the story of a woman revisiting her childhood trauma – lately opened up about his personal childhood trauma.
On Dec 1, China Times reported that Lee was kidnapped by his organic father when he was a child.
“My parents divorced when I was really young. I didn’t know my father well. One day while I was wandering around this fishing village, my dad dragged me into a car. I kept hitting the window and screaming but he didn’t let me go,” Lee defined.
The Miss Truth actor revealed that he wandered with his father for a number of years. However, his father would typically depart him to fend for himself on the streets.
“Whenever I got hungry, I would scavenge for food in garbage cans. Many kids mocked me for smelling bad,” Lee stated, including that he solely returned to his regular life after his mom discovered him.
The 35-year-old Taiwanese star admitted that this incident traumatised him so badly it affected his behaviour round others.
“I’ve always harboured negativity in my heart since then. I never understood why I was abandoned and ignored by my father. I didn’t understand why I was treated this way. I couldn’t even love others because I didn’t know how to,” he shared.
The Never Gone actor would meditate each day to alleviate his nervousness. It wasn’t till his father handed away in 2020 that his hatred for his father started to dissipate.
“At some point, I realised it’s not that he doesn’t want to be my father, but he just doesn’t know how to be one,” he stated.
Lee talked about that starring in Shards Of Her drastically helped him in his therapeutic journey because it allowed him to “be more honest with himself”.
“I hope that people who are currently struggling with trauma reconcile with themselves. It’s one of the ways to truly be freed,” he defined.
Despite having a traumatic childhood, Lee assured that he isn’t afraid to be a father.
“I long to have a complete family and get the opportunity to be a good father to my child,” he concluded.
