Mohd Khairul Nizam Ismail, 41, could be very cautious to to set a superb example for his three youngsters.
To him, “a father is a leader, protector and guide to his children”.
“Kids learn through the example of their elders. More than what we tell them, they’ll follow what they see us do. So as a father, we need to educate our kids by being a good example in being kind, compassionate and respectful, and this begins at home,” says Mohd Khairul whose youngsters are aged 13, 10 and seven.
He additionally says it’s essential for fathers to show their sons to respect girls as a result of it is a step in the direction of fixing plenty of the problems in society right this moment. He was referring to the current circumstances in the information of schoolgirls being harassed by their male lecturers and classmates.
“If we men treat our wife and daughters well, then our kids, especially our sons, will see this and behave accordingly. It all starts at home,” he emphasises.
Mohd Khairul together with his spouse Nur Farah, and their youngsters (from left) Muhammad Anas, Muhammad Syakil and Nur Ameera, on the youngsters’s playground.
Mohd Khairul and his spouse, Nur Farah Abdol Aziz, 40, have two sons and a daughter.
“Of course, it’s slightly different raising a daughter than a son,” he admits.
“Although we love all our children equally, each has his or her own personality and responds differently, and as fathers, we tend to be more direct and straightforward with our sons but use a more gentle approach with daughters.
“And it’s natural for fathers to have that protective instinct towards their daughters,” he says.
It’s needed for fathers to show their daughters about private security, says Mohd Khairul.
“Although we wish that we didn’t have to and we wish there wasn’t a need to, the fact remains that we live in a society where we have to educate our daughters about personal safety. This is to build up their self-confidence and empower them to handle any situation they may encounter,” he says.
According to Mohd Khairul, being a father and a husband is essential to his personal private improvement.
“When you’re a father and a husband, you’ve to be responsible. It’s more than just providing financially for your wife and children, although that is important.
“You’ve to be committed to your family, and you’ve to manage your time well, as well as balance work and family responsibilities, so that you can be there for your wife and children,” he says.
Mohd Khairul and his household in Ipoh throughout Hari Raya, his spouse’s hometown.The IT government admits it was troublesome spending time together with his youngsters pre-Covid as a result of he works odd hours. When he was residence, the kids can be in school or asleep already.
“During the pandemic, working from home gave me more time with my kids, and I could communicate with them, help them with their schoolwork and accompany them in their activities,” he says.
“At times, it can be challenging monitoring and guiding our children to survive in today’s challenging world so I’m grateful to my wife and other family members who are very supportive,” he provides.
In April, the Malaysian Employment Act was amended to supply seven days of paternity go away to fathers for every youngster born (as much as 5 youngsters).
“I think this is good news for working fathers like myself. At least we can spend the time to take care of our wife and children, during her confinement. New fathers can also have the experience of looking after their newborn while the mother gets her rest,” he says.
He says that his most memorable second as a father was experiencing the beginning of his daughter and sons.
“Participating in the process of childbirth has helped me understand the challenges that a mother goes through. This has made me realise that having a child is a gift which comes with responsibility,” he concludes.
